Exit strategy.

"In my own situation, I might say that I was shamed into recovery...I was too polite to be bad in front of them...The dynamics of "being good," the fear of disappointing others, and the interplay between shame and the desire for connection, then, are not just a matter of theory."

Elspeth Probyn, "Doing Shame," Blush: Faces of Shame, Minneapolis: U of Minnesota Press, 2005, p. 21.